Gray-A or Grey-A, short for gray-asexual or grey-asexual, refers to a gray area relationship to asexuality. Reasons for identifying as gray-asexual can involve infrequent or ambiguous experiences of sexual attraction, low sex drive, or disinterest in sex. Out of the ace respondents to the 2019 Ace Community Survey, about 10% categorized themselves as gray-asexual.
Among gray-asexuals, the identity has been broadly conceptualized as way to express finding asexuality to be "a useful idea" but an imperfect "fit." The ambiguity of the term is valuable, in this respect.
Gray-asexuality has been rarely discussed in mainstream media coverage (relative to asexuality) or academic asexuality studies, and gray-asexual characters have also been rare in ace fiction.
The concept of gray-asexuality was preceded by earlier discussion of semisexuality on the AVEN forums, referencing a spectrum of sexual intensity. The term "Gray-A" itself comes from a 2006 thread by AVEN user KSpaz, who introduced the term for "fuzzy" experiences and those "who may sometimes feel unsure of their asexuality/sexuality."
- AVEN's Gray Area
- Demi Grace - a forum for demisexuals, grey-asexuals and allies
- Demi Gray - advice for demisexuals and gray-asexuals
- Weis, R., Hermann, L., Bauer, C., Miller, T. L., Baba, A., van der Biezen, T., Campos, A., Smiga, J. A., Tomaskovic-Moore, S., Trieu, T. H., Walfrand, A., & Ziebert, J. (2021). The 2019 asexual community survey summary report. The Ace Community Survey Team.
- Siggy, Many ways to be between, The Asexual Agenda, (August 2012).
- Siggy, Ambiguous and heading nowhere, The Asexual Agenda, (March 2015).
- Cor (epochryphal), Greyness: 301, (July 2014).
- Siggy, Gray Asexuality in mainstream media, The Asexual Agenda, (April 2022).
- Coyote, Gray-Asexuality in Asexuality Studies, The Ace Theist, (August 2021).
- Sara K., Why Are There So Few Grey-A Characters in Ace Fiction?, The Notes Which Do Not Fit, (October 2020).
- Hezekiah, The development of gray asexuality and demisexuality as identity terms, Critique of Popular Reason, (May 2013).
- KSpaz, "Gray-A's," (April 2006).