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The Post of the Week, or PotW, is a particularly well-written post from the AVEN boards featured on the asexuality.org homepage. The Post of the Week is selected by Project Team moderators ghosts and Coleslaw every Friday. To nominate a post for Post of the Week, PM Hu at AVEN.

This Week's Post of the Week

"I have been saying since the days when I first began doing interviews on the subject of asexuality that far too much emphasis is placed on what asexuals don't do. [...] I have, instead suggested to reporters and various other interviewers, that the emphasis should be placed instead on what we are doing: forging our own lives, by our own rules and standards, insisting on our own identities and our own relationships. We are embracing our asexuality as an actual sexuality, accepting it as our sexual identity and our way of interacting with others sexually. Asexuality is the term which best describes our sexual beings. In other words, it isn't that asexuals have no sex or sexuality; rather, our sexuality is asexual."


KBRD143 redefines what it means to be asexual.

Archive

January 19, 2006

"The much touted 'sexual revolution' is, and has been, a failure. It will continue to be a failure up until the day when there is REAL sexual freedom, and it is FINALLY OKAY to say, 'No thanks. I'm just not interested. At all. Ever.'

"When a person can say 'No' to sex, without being second-guessed, ridiculed, pitied, or accused of lying and hiding their true orientation, THEN they have sexual freedom".

--GBRD143 [1]takes a bow for the new revolution].

January 12, 2006

"My bedfellows of choice? Paperbacks. Hardcover books are too hard and pointy, I can't sleep comfortably with them."

--Penumbra is fantastic in bed.

January 05, 2006

"My asexuality is not based on a decision. My living an asexual LIFESTYLE, and not denying it or letting people force me into a sexual lifestyle, is my decision, but my lack of sexual attraction itself is not through a process of decision-making or choosing from what has been offered."

--cijay is asexual by nature, but asexy by choice.

December 03, 2006

"I am glad I am not the only one who has started laughing or giggling during the few making out and other intimate moments I've had in my life. I do seem to be the only one who didn't feel at all bad about it, just annoyed right back at them when they'd get angry at my laughter first. When it comes down to it, I act silly during intimate moments because I can't take it seriously (the expressions sexual people get on their faces when they are being intimate are hilarious to me,) and the laughter/giggling is a part of it."

--C21H22O2N2 can't keep a straight face.

November 25, 2006

"The reason asexuals wish to come out to family and friends is probably to put an end to the intense social pressure to partner. I'm sure a good number want to partner, but they wish to do so on their own terms. That means communication. I also think they are trying to gain some support for themselves as people. I never feel very comfortable on a course of action unless I feel I am supported by my family."

--mindlife on why we (sometimes) come out.

October 28, 2006

"Don't say your orientation will be the cause of you being lonely and miserable! There's still so much more to life to be happy about, other than having a romantic relationship.

"Also, it's rare, but still quite possible for you to meet another asexual with whom you can be in a romantic-type relationship... We've got a handful of asexual couples running around on this site, even one recently married asexual couple (who met here on AVEN!). Aside from that, although it is more difficult, relationships between an asexual and a sexual can work out as well. Really.. There's hope." *thumbs up*

--deladangerous looks on the bright side

October 16, 2006

"A person's sexuality is seen from the outside primarily in their behavior as it relates to their search for a sexual partner. For an asexual, the outside behavior MIGHT be different, but a lot of asexuals learn to play 'the game' in order to be accepted by others. It is in the mental aspect of sexuality that we differ. Choosing the type of person desired for sexual relationships IS an aspect of sexuality, and asexuals DO make a choice. It just happens to be NOBODY."

--Greybird on defining "sexuality"

October 6, 2006

"I read the definition and wondered, 'what is sexual attraction then?' The answer is probably, 'if you have to ask, you don't have it.' I kept reading and as I did so, the sun rose in my head."

--Stupendous Sam wonders why he wasn't informed

September 29, 2006

"It's one thing for society to tell us our body is only good for one thing. But you have to take the stand to change that view within yourself... Seek out all the ways your body is beautiful and then stick your finger out the window and give a big f-you to everyone who ever made you feel like your body wasn't beautiful by sexualizing it."

--fern on taking the sex out of nudity

September 22, 2006

"The sex issue ended up alienating me from my partners. What seemed the worst for me is that afterwards they would always describe a feeling of intimacy, that we had grown closer because of it. This drove me away because on the inside I felt the exact opposite."

--Kallan remembers the old days

September 15, 2006

"There are lots of things that are "needed" for human society to function. We need people to befriend other people, to engage in charitable activities for each other, and to contribute to the infrastructure, economy, and/or government of the places they live in, among other things. Asexuals can do those things just fine. We also need people to reproduce, but not everybody - people have really been overdoing that one lately. So don't worry, you're just as necessary as everybody else."

--Hallucigenia destroys the "worthless" argument

September 7, 2006

"When people look for a partner, most people are looking for someone to help them fulfill emotional as well as sexual needs. Romantic asexual people, no matter which gender or sex they are or are not attracted to, are looking for that emotional connection with another person, but aren't looking to fulfill any sexual need."

--Squid on explaining asexual orientation