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Asexuals form a variety of '''relationships''' to fulfill their emotional needs.  Some have adhered to the more common structuring of relationships, whereas others have tried to structure their relationships a bit differently.  However, regardless of structure, most asexuals find things such as communication, trust, and affection to be important parts of their relationships.
 
 
Asexuals form a variety of relationships to fulfill their emotional needs.  Some have adhered to the more common structuring of relationships, whereas others have tried to structure their relationships a bit differently.  However, regardless of structure, most asexuals find things such as communication, trust, and affection to be important parts of their relationships.
 
  
 
== Attraction ==
 
== Attraction ==
[[Attraction|Full article: Attraction]]
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''Full article: [[Attraction]]''
  
While asexuals do not experience sexual attraction, they experience a variety of other attractions and have come up with names for some of these attractions, including romantic and aesthetic attraction.  There is some debate as to whether these definitions are accurate. Most commonly, people identify as romantic or [[Aromantic|aromantic]].
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While asexuals do not experience sexual attraction, they experience a variety of other attractions and have come up with names for some of these attractions, including romantic and aesthetic attraction.  There is some debate as to whether these definitions are accurate. Most commonly, people identify as romantic or [[aromantic]].
  
 
== Sensuality ==
 
== Sensuality ==
  
Sensuality is pleasure that involves the senses. Many sexual people interpret the word as only relating to sexual pleasure that involves the senses, but there are other ways of being sensual. Some (though not all) asexuals enjoy nonsexual sensuality with other people. Sensuality often involves tactile stimulation, such as cuddling, kissing, or giving or recieving a massage, but interpretations of visual, aural, taste, or olfactory stimuli as sensual are also appropriate - for example, since the desire to appreciate the sight of a beautiful person involves visual stimulation, it could be seen as sensual.
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Sensuality is pleasure that involves the senses. Many sexual people interpret the word as only relating to sexual pleasure that involves the senses, but there are other ways of being sensual. Some (though not all) asexuals enjoy nonsexual sensuality with other people. Sensuality often involves tactile stimulation, such as cuddling, kissing, or giving or receiving a massage, but interpretations of visual, aural, taste, or olfactory stimuli as sensual are also appropriate - for example, since the desire to appreciate the sight of a beautiful person involves visual stimulation, it could be seen as sensual.
  
 
== Community- and Partner-Based Intimacy ==
 
== Community- and Partner-Based Intimacy ==
 
Some people reject the romantic vs. aromantic dichotomy. They feel that this model is weighed towards the romantic side, since it is defined by something that a person does; it does not take into account the types of intimate relationships that nonromantic people enter into. Many nonromantic people have a desire for partnership, but don’t think of it in a romantic sense.   
 
Some people reject the romantic vs. aromantic dichotomy. They feel that this model is weighed towards the romantic side, since it is defined by something that a person does; it does not take into account the types of intimate relationships that nonromantic people enter into. Many nonromantic people have a desire for partnership, but don’t think of it in a romantic sense.   
  
One of the models proposed to describe how people structure their relationships is that of partner-based and community-based intimacy.  To some extent, everyone has both types in their lives; everyone has multiple relationships with multiple people, and everyone has one or a few relationships that are more strongly developed and have a central role in that person’s life.  Therefore, this model is not about labeling someone as either a "partner-based intimacy" person or a "community-based intimacy" person, but about describing the forms a person's relationships might take on.
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One of the models proposed to describe how people structure their relationships is that of partner-based and community-based intimacy.  To some extent, everyone has both types in their lives; everyone has multiple relationships with multiple people, and everyone has one or a few relationships that are more strongly developed and have a central role in that person’s life.  Therefore, this model is not about labeling someone as either a "partner-based intimacy" person or a "community-based intimacy" person, but about describing the forms a person's relationships might take on.<ref>[http://asexualunderground.blogspot.com/2006/08/7-intimacy-basics.html #7- Intimacy Basics] - Podcast on [[Love from the Asexual Underground]]</ref>
[http://asexualunderground.blogspot.com/2006/08/7-intimacy-basics.html Relevant podcast]
 
  
 
===Partner-Based Intimacy===
 
===Partner-Based Intimacy===
 
In this model, a person fulfills their emotional needs from one relationship with a partner.  To build up this type of relationship, people try to become very close to someone and to fill an important role in their lives.  A lot of time and energy is spent on this relationship, as the people involved begin to structure their lives around each other.
 
In this model, a person fulfills their emotional needs from one relationship with a partner.  To build up this type of relationship, people try to become very close to someone and to fill an important role in their lives.  A lot of time and energy is spent on this relationship, as the people involved begin to structure their lives around each other.
  
People who engage in partner-based intimacy usually do have more than one relationship - for example, a hetero-romantic female using this model might have several good female friends, some family members, and many casual acquaintances as well as a romantic partner - but, out of these, they choose one relationship to which they give the highest priority and the deepest level of romanticism and intimacy.
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People who engage in partner-based intimacy usually do have more than one relationship - for example, someone using this model might have several good friends, some family members, and many casual acquaintances as well as a romantic partner - but, out of these, they choose one relationship to which they give some element of exclusivity.
  
 
===Community-Based Intimacy===
 
===Community-Based Intimacy===
In community-based intimacy, a person has multiple relationships. However, since this is a community, these relationships are often a lot more specialized. Instead of having one relationship that is as close and intimate as possible, each relationship fills a different role.  Relationships are comprised of different activities and ways of being intimate.  
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The practice of ascribing the needs, wants and desires traditionally directed at one's partner to one's community. Individuals engaging in community-based intimacy see a constantly changing network of relationships as their primary means of finding emotional fulfillment, achieving financial stability building an environment to raise children.
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Community structure among those using this model can vary greatly. Some build traditional partnerships as the "core" of their communities. Others will maintain one or more stable relationships at the core of their community but will resist "partner/nonpartner" distinctions, while others focus on the breadth and diversity of their communities rather than on structured relationships at their core.
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== Romantic orientation ==
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''Full article: [[Romantic orientation]]''
  
In order to fulfill their needs, a person either finds new people to bring into the community in order to fill specific roles, or they take an existing relationship and build more structure and depth into itA person following this model is constantly finding new things the community can do to enrich their lifeAs a person changes, so too do the roles and structures of the individual relationships in their community in order to keep the community tailored to each person.
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Romantic orientation (also called affectional orientation) is a term used by some instead of sexual orientationPeople who use this term believe that orientation is not just related to a person's sexualitySome asexuals use this term as a way to describe who they are emotionally or romantically attracted to.<ref>[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Affectional_orientation Affectional orientation] - article on Wikipedia</ref>
  
People are able to drift into and out of the community without it having a harmful effect.  As long as the rate of people entering the community is at least equal to the rate of people leaving, the community will essentially remain stable, even if the individual relationships themselves don’t remain stable.
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== Romantic Friendship ==
  
== Affectional orientation ==
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Romantic friendship is a term used to describe close friendships, in which there is a degree of emotional and physical intensity that is generally attributed to romantic relationships. Such displays of affection can include cuddling, kissing, expressing love for one another, among others.  These relationships were common and acceptable in Western society until the late 19th century.<ref>[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romantic_friendship Romantic friendship] - article on Wikipedia</ref>
  
Affectional orientation is a term used by some instead of sexual orientation.  People who use this term believe that orientation is not just related to a person's sexuality.  Some asexuals use this term as a way to describe who they are emotionally or romantically attracted to.
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== Platonic relationship ==
[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Affectional_orientation [1]]
 
  
== Romantic Friendship ==
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Relationships can be built on platonic love, not just romantic love. This is called a [[queerplatonic]] relationship.
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== Mono/Polyamory ==
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[[Polyamory]] is the practice of having more than one intimate relationships simultaneously with the informed consent of all partners concerned. The opposite of which is monoamory, having an intimate relationship with only one person.
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== See also ==
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* [[Attraction]]
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* [[Relationship FAQ]]
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* [[Sources of intimacy]]
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== References ==
  
Romantic friendship is a term used to describe close friendships, in which there is a degree of emotional and physical intensity that is generally attributed to romantic relationships. Such displays of affection can include cuddling, kissing, expressing love for one another, among others.  These relationships were common and acceptable in Western society until the late 19th century.
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*[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romantic_friendship Wikipedia article]
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== External links ==
*[http://www.celebratefriendship.org/rfriend.htm Celebrate Friendship article]
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* [http://www.asexualove.net/ asexualove.net] ([http://web.archive.org/web/20070930121334/http://www.asexualove.net/ archived])
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* [http://asexualunderground.blogspot.com/ Love from the Asexual Underground]
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* [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interpersonal_relationship Interpersonal relationship] - article on Wikipedia
  
== Family Models ==
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[[Category:Asexuality]]

Latest revision as of 06:03, 19 August 2017

Asexuals form a variety of relationships to fulfill their emotional needs. Some have adhered to the more common structuring of relationships, whereas others have tried to structure their relationships a bit differently. However, regardless of structure, most asexuals find things such as communication, trust, and affection to be important parts of their relationships.

Attraction

Full article: Attraction

While asexuals do not experience sexual attraction, they experience a variety of other attractions and have come up with names for some of these attractions, including romantic and aesthetic attraction. There is some debate as to whether these definitions are accurate. Most commonly, people identify as romantic or aromantic.

Sensuality

Sensuality is pleasure that involves the senses. Many sexual people interpret the word as only relating to sexual pleasure that involves the senses, but there are other ways of being sensual. Some (though not all) asexuals enjoy nonsexual sensuality with other people. Sensuality often involves tactile stimulation, such as cuddling, kissing, or giving or receiving a massage, but interpretations of visual, aural, taste, or olfactory stimuli as sensual are also appropriate - for example, since the desire to appreciate the sight of a beautiful person involves visual stimulation, it could be seen as sensual.

Community- and Partner-Based Intimacy

Some people reject the romantic vs. aromantic dichotomy. They feel that this model is weighed towards the romantic side, since it is defined by something that a person does; it does not take into account the types of intimate relationships that nonromantic people enter into. Many nonromantic people have a desire for partnership, but don’t think of it in a romantic sense.

One of the models proposed to describe how people structure their relationships is that of partner-based and community-based intimacy. To some extent, everyone has both types in their lives; everyone has multiple relationships with multiple people, and everyone has one or a few relationships that are more strongly developed and have a central role in that person’s life. Therefore, this model is not about labeling someone as either a "partner-based intimacy" person or a "community-based intimacy" person, but about describing the forms a person's relationships might take on.[1]

Partner-Based Intimacy

In this model, a person fulfills their emotional needs from one relationship with a partner. To build up this type of relationship, people try to become very close to someone and to fill an important role in their lives. A lot of time and energy is spent on this relationship, as the people involved begin to structure their lives around each other.

People who engage in partner-based intimacy usually do have more than one relationship - for example, someone using this model might have several good friends, some family members, and many casual acquaintances as well as a romantic partner - but, out of these, they choose one relationship to which they give some element of exclusivity.

Community-Based Intimacy

The practice of ascribing the needs, wants and desires traditionally directed at one's partner to one's community. Individuals engaging in community-based intimacy see a constantly changing network of relationships as their primary means of finding emotional fulfillment, achieving financial stability building an environment to raise children.

Community structure among those using this model can vary greatly. Some build traditional partnerships as the "core" of their communities. Others will maintain one or more stable relationships at the core of their community but will resist "partner/nonpartner" distinctions, while others focus on the breadth and diversity of their communities rather than on structured relationships at their core.

Romantic orientation

Full article: Romantic orientation

Romantic orientation (also called affectional orientation) is a term used by some instead of sexual orientation. People who use this term believe that orientation is not just related to a person's sexuality. Some asexuals use this term as a way to describe who they are emotionally or romantically attracted to.[2]

Romantic Friendship

Romantic friendship is a term used to describe close friendships, in which there is a degree of emotional and physical intensity that is generally attributed to romantic relationships. Such displays of affection can include cuddling, kissing, expressing love for one another, among others. These relationships were common and acceptable in Western society until the late 19th century.[3]

Platonic relationship

Relationships can be built on platonic love, not just romantic love. This is called a queerplatonic relationship.

Mono/Polyamory

Polyamory is the practice of having more than one intimate relationships simultaneously with the informed consent of all partners concerned. The opposite of which is monoamory, having an intimate relationship with only one person.

See also

References

  1. #7- Intimacy Basics - Podcast on Love from the Asexual Underground
  2. Affectional orientation - article on Wikipedia
  3. Romantic friendship - article on Wikipedia

External links