Sexual attraction
Sexual attraction is a feeling that sexual people get that causes them to desire sexual contact with a specific other person. It is often, but not always, felt along with other forms of attraction - i.e. sometimes a person experiencing sexual attraction will only want sex, such as some friends with benefits relationships, and other times they will desire sex as well as romantic interaction or other things.
Sometimes asexuals will desire sexual contact for other reasons besides attraction (e.g. in order to make a sexual partner happy, to satisfy a curiosity, to have a child, or to prove to themselves or others that they are "normal"). It therefore becomes difficult to define sexual attraction exactly, as it is not considered by many asexuals to be the same as desire. One good rule of thumb is that sexual attraction involves a desire for the sexual act itself, rather than its social consequences. Some models of asexuality, make distinctions between different kinds of sexual desire, and allow for asexuals to feel some varieties but not others.
Sexual attraction is not the same thing as libido, although in sexuals the two often go together. When asexuals experience libido, it is not connected to attraction or desire, and can thus be taken care of by oneself.
Primary and Secondary
- Primary sexual attraction is an instant attraction to people based on instantly available information such as their looks or smell which may or may not lead to arousal or sexual desire.
- Secondary sexual attraction is an attraction that develops over time based on a person's relationship and emotional connection with another person.
See also
External links
- Sexual attraction on Wikipedia
