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| − | I know many in the asexual community are [[Sex drive|libidoists]] and many are not. But I cannot for the life of me remember which are which. The fact of the matter is that few people make a big deal out of it, for various reasons.
| + | It's a scary thought, but doesn't work in reality, fortunately. By which I mean using classical conditioning to explain/alter sexuality. There's plenty of really horrible groups out there who try to "convert" people... none of which succeed. They used to use electroshock treatment to try and convert people... which generally made them unable to physically have sex for a while, but I don't believed it changed their attractions. |
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| − | If you as an individual find it important, by all means incorporate it into your identity! But my feeling is that most people with experience in the community decide that it is not so important, and the people who make the most out of it are people who haven't thought much about what impact such an identity would actually have. So when I discourage use of "[[nonlibidoist]]", I'm merely trying to pass on the conventional wisdom of crowds and of experience. If you think that's just nonsense, that you're your own individual, that you can identify how you want, well, yeah, you can.
| + | Also, think about it: realistically if classical conditioning was the cause of sexuality, we wouldn't see the patterns of [[attraction]] we do. Most kids make friends mostly with their own sex, and therefore through both mere exposure and classical conditioning the large majority of people would be gay. Girls would be a bit more gay than boys, on average, because mothers do more of the childcare than fathers on average, and therefore most children would get a slightly higher push towards females. And all asexuals would have just had most people in their lives be horrible to them... |
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| − | – Siggy [http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?/topic/59454-asexual-test/page__p__1800883#entry1800883 on libidoism in the asexual community] | + | – virescence [http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?/topic/61670-is-sexuality-just-classical-conditioning/page__p__1863681#entry1863681 on the origin of sexuality] |
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It's a scary thought, but doesn't work in reality, fortunately. By which I mean using classical conditioning to explain/alter sexuality. There's plenty of really horrible groups out there who try to "convert" people... none of which succeed. They used to use electroshock treatment to try and convert people... which generally made them unable to physically have sex for a while, but I don't believed it changed their attractions.
Also, think about it: realistically if classical conditioning was the cause of sexuality, we wouldn't see the patterns of attraction we do. Most kids make friends mostly with their own sex, and therefore through both mere exposure and classical conditioning the large majority of people would be gay. Girls would be a bit more gay than boys, on average, because mothers do more of the childcare than fathers on average, and therefore most children would get a slightly higher push towards females. And all asexuals would have just had most people in their lives be horrible to them...
– virescence on the origin of sexuality
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• … that some asexual people are happier on their own or with a group of close friends, while other asexuals have a desire to date and will form more intimate romantic relationships?
• … that asexual relationships are based on the same elements that are also important for many sexual people, like understanding, commitment, trust, emotional intimacy and communication?
• … that for some asexuals arousal is a fairly regular occurrence, though it is not associated with a desire to find a sexual partner? Some asexuals will occasionally masturbate, but feel no desire for partnered sexuality. Other asexual people experience little or no arousal.
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Asexuality in the Media
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• The May/June issue of AVEN’s online newsletter, AVENues, has been published.
•The Telegraph reports on celibacy and on asexuality in “No sex please: the joys of a celibate life”.
• Harlot magazine, the online version of Scarlet magazine, featured an article entitled "Rise of the Asexual" in issue 19 in October 2010.
• Helen Croydon interviewed several AVENites for an article in Foreplay magazine and another in the Times.
• forskning.no has a Norwegian article, "Det siste sex-tabuet", which gives a basic summary of asexuality.
• Marie Claire contains a short article, "The New Asexual Movement".
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