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As for sexual fluidity; it has been proven time and time again that it is not bull. Hundreds and thousands of people are the example of this; there are several tropes appearing widely in pop culture that celebrate or mock the fact that many of us are sexually fluid and sexuality is ever-changing. So what we're saying now is that this can only apply to sexuals? Really?
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As a [[Sexual]], I believe the rule should be the same for [[ace|Aces]] that I always advise other Sexuals; if you're so disinterested in what's going on that you have to consciously put on an act to appear to be enjoying it at all, then stop. Plenty of sexual [[relationship|relationships]] involve sexual acts that one partner enjoys more than the other, but if the other partner isn't getting any pleasure or comfort out of it at all, and the other partner needs them to seem to in order to enjoy it themselves, then it's best to find another move that's a bit more mutually pleasing, even if it's still a little unbalanced.  
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Apart from that, I can assure anyone who may not know that after coming out as say, gay, after all that struggle and heartbreak and hopeful acceptance… It's damn well hard to come out after that, as fluid or just other, and not only have to repeat the process but having to face the silent judgement that you seem to be making, which has nothing to do with 'having your cake and eating it'.
 
  
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And as for gender fluidity, it's also not fun, not fun at all. It's not indecisiveness: people are not neatly labelled boxes. I don't think people like waking up in the mornings not knowing whether they'll be able to face the day or be it with crippling dysphoria; how they'll feel, what they can do to make it better. Gender fluid (and I'm sure sexually fluid, too) folks don't have that 'stability' that non-fluid people do, and that's scary, not 'special', and 'privileged'.
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&ndash; Pamcakes [http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?/topic/62362-cant-you-fake-it-just-a-little/page__p__1881631#entry1881631 on faking sexual enjoyment].
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It's highly unpleasant to suddenly, or gradually, or however-the-hell fast feel yourself shifting. It's sometimes like a rug has been pulled out form underneath you - you may not be who you were yesterday. (I've heard sexually fluid people talk about the same kind of experience, too.)
 
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Asexual: a person who does not experience sexual attraction.

Welcome to the Asexual Visibility and Education Network. AVEN hosts the world's largest online asexual community as well as a large archive of resources on asexuality. AVEN strives to create open, honest discussion about asexuality among sexual and asexual people alike. Unlike celibacy, which is a choice, asexuality is a sexual orientation. Asexual people have the same emotional needs as everybody else and are just as capable of forming intimate relationships. To find out more about asexuality, click here.


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As a Sexual, I believe the rule should be the same for Aces that I always advise other Sexuals; if you're so disinterested in what's going on that you have to consciously put on an act to appear to be enjoying it at all, then stop. Plenty of sexual relationships involve sexual acts that one partner enjoys more than the other, but if the other partner isn't getting any pleasure or comfort out of it at all, and the other partner needs them to seem to in order to enjoy it themselves, then it's best to find another move that's a bit more mutually pleasing, even if it's still a little unbalanced.

– Pamcakes on faking sexual enjoyment.

Did you know...

• … that some asexual people are happier on their own or with a group of close friends, while other asexuals have a desire to date and will form more intimate romantic relationships?


• … that asexual relationships are based on the same elements that are also important for many sexual people, like understanding, commitment, trust, emotional intimacy and communication?


• … that for some asexuals arousal is a fairly regular occurrence, though it is not associated with a desire to find a sexual partner? Some asexuals will occasionally masturbate, but feel no desire for partnered sexuality. Other asexual people experience little or no arousal.

Asexuality in the Media

• The May/June issue of AVEN’s online newsletter, AVENues, has been published.

• A paper, Theoretical Issues in the Study of Asexuality by CJ DeLuzio Chasin, has been published in Archives of Sexual Behavior. AVEN discussion here.

•The Telegraph reports on celibacy and on asexuality in “No sex please: the joys of a celibate life”.

• Harlot magazine, the online version of Scarlet magazine, featured an article entitled "Rise of the Asexual" in issue 19 in October 2010.

• Helen Croydon interviewed several AVENites for an article in Foreplay magazine and another in the Times.

• forskning.no has a Norwegian article, "Det siste sex-tabuet", which gives a basic summary of asexuality.

• Marie Claire contains a short article, "The New Asexual Movement".

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