AVEN Post of the Week
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As for sexual fluidity; it has been proven time and time again that it is not bull. Hundreds and thousands of people are the example of this; there are several tropes appearing widely in pop culture that celebrate or mock the fact that many of us are sexually fluid and sexuality is ever-changing. So what we're saying now is that this can only apply to sexuals? Really?
Apart from that, I can assure anyone who may not know that after coming out as say, gay, after all that struggle and heartbreak and hopeful acceptance… It's damn well hard to come out after that, as fluid or just other, and not only have to repeat the process but having to face the silent judgement that you seem to be making, which has nothing to do with 'having your cake and eating it'.
And as for gender fluidity, it's also not fun, not fun at all. It's not indecisiveness: people are not neatly labelled boxes. I don't think people like waking up in the mornings not knowing whether they'll be able to face the day or be it with crippling dysphoria; how they'll feel, what they can do to make it better. Gender fluid (and I'm sure sexually fluid, too) folks don't have that 'stability' that non-fluid people do, and that's scary, not 'special', and 'privileged'.
It's highly unpleasant to suddenly, or gradually, or however-the-hell fast feel yourself shifting. It's sometimes like a rug has been pulled out form underneath you - you may not be who you were yesterday. (I've heard sexually fluid people talk about the same kind of experience, too.)
– ExeCUTE on gender and sexual fluidity.
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Did you know...
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• … that some asexual people are happier on their own or with a group of close friends, while other asexuals have a desire to date and will form more intimate romantic relationships?
• … that asexual relationships are based on the same elements that are also important for many sexual people, like understanding, commitment, trust, emotional intimacy and communication?
• … that for some asexuals arousal is a fairly regular occurrence, though it is not associated with a desire to find a sexual partner? Some asexuals will occasionally masturbate, but feel no desire for partnered sexuality. Other asexual people experience little or no arousal.
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Asexuality in the Media
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