AVEN Post of the Week
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compromise is an important part of a relationship, yeah, but there are times when it's appropriate and times when it's not; only you can really decide which category having sex would fall into. if you're repulsed at the idea and highly uncomfortable, as under_the_radar said, your sexual partner will pick up on that, and it probably wouldn't make her feel too great -- never mind your own feelings on the matter. you shouldn't have to do anything that makes you feel guilty or otherwise quite uncomfortable with yourself. if, on the other hand, it's more a case of, "okay, i don't have any need for this myself, but i can tolerate it and i enjoy making my partner feel good", then compromising now and then seems like an entirely reasonable idea. as far as things being awkward... well yeah, sex is awkward in the beginning for just about everyone; if you think that's something that comes from repulsion or just not feeling that it's natural for you, that's one thing; if you've only had sex once though, maybe it's something that would feel less awkward with more experience and time...? again, only you can decide where your boundaries lie; compromise can be a tricky thing, for sure.
– CBC Radio Girl on compromises.
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Did you know...
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• … that some asexual people are happier on their own or with a group of close friends, while other asexuals have a desire to date and will form more intimate romantic relationships?
• … that asexual relationships are based on the same elements that are also important for many sexual people, like understanding, commitment, trust, emotional intimacy and communication?
• … that for some asexuals arousal is a fairly regular occurrence, though it is not associated with a desire to find a sexual partner? Some asexuals will occasionally masturbate, but feel no desire for partnered sexuality. Other asexual people experience little or no arousal.
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Asexuality in the Media
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• After a long hiatus, AVENues, AVEN’s online newsletter, is under new management and is back for a fantastic October issue!
• Harlot magazine, the online version of Scarlet magazine, featured an article entitled "Rise of the Asexual" in issue 19 in October 2010.
• Helen Croydon interviewed several AVENites for an article in Foreplay magazine and another in the Times.
• forskning.no has a Norwegian article, "Det siste sex-tabuet", which gives a basic summary of asexuality.
• Marie Claire contains a short article, "The New Asexual Movement".
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